I could name this post Carer Choices instead of Career Choices because for the care givers of dementia patients, their choice to provide support to an individual in need impacts their careers. Their careers may also directly impact their ability to provide a care giver.
We are fortunate that Lyn is able to remain living at home with supports for her care in place. We are fortunate that Mom is retired and not having to manage a 40-hour work week on top of a 24/7 care for my sister. We are fortunate that we don't have to move them here to Virginia or my family to New Mexico to take over. We will if we have to, don't get me wrong, but neither option would be the best for her. Joan Lunden faced some of the same concerns when she had to take on the care of her mother. Alfred Molina is now facing them as well as he cares for his wife who has recently announced her own diagnosis.
Not every family has the resources to be able to afford a professional carer and has to make career choices. Not every family has the hands available to care for the dementia patient. Sometimes, they have to make tough choices.
Though that phrase, "tough choices," really applies to almost all decisions involved in this kind of care.
Talking with Julie Winokur: The Sandwich Generation